Men’s Group Therapy in New York City
A professionally facilitated men’s therapy group for men who want to do real work, on relationships, identity, emotion, and the specific challenges men face. Led by Paul Chiariello, LMSW.
Men’s Therapy That Goes Where Most Groups Don’t
Most men who come to therapy have spent their lives absorbing, directly or indirectly, the message that their emotional experience doesn’t matter much, that vulnerability is weakness, and that the right response to difficulty is to push through and figure it out alone. That training is deeply counterproductive. Most men know it. They just don’t know what to do instead, and few spaces actually help with that.
This group is designed for men who are ready for something different. Not a support group where people vent and go home feeling mildly better, but actual clinical work, led by a therapist who understands the specific internal landscape men carry: the self-esteem wounds from not measuring up, the difficulty accessing emotions that feel threatening, the way relationship problems get expressed as anger or withdrawal rather than the fear or grief underneath, the identity questions that emerge in the middle of life when the old playbook stops working.
Paul Chiariello, LMSW is a Columbia-trained social worker with deep expertise in working with men, including men navigating ADHD, relationship breakdown, identity transitions, and the emotional challenges that men in this culture are often expected to handle without support. He creates a space where men can show up honestly and do real, vulnerable work without judgment. Which is harder to find than it should be.
What the Group Works On
Relationships and Partnership
Communication breakdown, the pursuer-withdrawer dynamic, intimacy and vulnerability, and the specific ways men shut down or escalate in conflict, and why those patterns make complete sense even as they make everything worse.
Emotion and Self-Awareness
Developing the capacity to recognize and name emotional experience beyond anger, and to respond from that place rather than reacting automatically and cleaning up the mess afterward.
Identity and Masculinity
What it means to be a man right now, the messages you received about masculinity and how they’ve shaped you, and building a more authentic sense of who you are, separate from what you were told you should be.
Work, Achievement, and Worth
The way many men tie their sense of value to professional achievement, and what happens when that equation doesn’t hold. Career transitions, underperformance, burnout, and the disorientation of not knowing who you are when work isn’t going well.
ADHD and Masculine Identity
For men with ADHD, the intersection of neurology and masculine socialization creates a particular wound: the expectation to be reliable, in control, and competent, colliding with a brain that makes all of that significantly harder. The shame that comes from that collision is worth examining directly.
Fatherhood
Being the father you want to be, not the one you were shown. The group creates space to examine what you received and make more deliberate choices about what you pass on.
About Paul Chiariello, LMSW
Paul is a Columbia-trained social worker with extensive experience in individual and group therapy with men. His clinical approach draws on Schema Therapy, EFT,